This is Awkward.

Posted on | July 25, 2011 | 3 Comments

There are things I am good at and things I am not so good at. For example: I am very good at keeping up with my own housework. I am good at gardening, I am good at sleeping, I am good at buying shoes. I am good at singing other peoples’ songs.
Here are some things I am not good at: I am not good at turning down snacks. I am not good at watching horror movies. I am not good at surprises. I am also not good at promoting myself.
When I started playing music for a living a few years back I told myself I was going to be as DIY as possible. I wanted control over my name and image and what I did and how I did it. I had absolutely no idea what I was doing at the time and have learned along the way. I’m pretty proud of my accomplishments thus far… but one lesson I’ve not been able to learn is how to ‘sell’ myself. “You don’t need to! Music speaks for itself!!” you will say. And to a degree, you’re right. But there comes a point and time when you have to sell yourself out a little bit in order to reach new audiences. You have to get in touch with people and say, “Hey, I’m good at what I do so here’s what I cost. I’ll take this date.” But something about that is impossible for me.

ESPECIALLY my own music.

So many people have asked me to do my own stuff at cover band shows, people are constantly baffled when I play a little original show and didn’t tell them. I don’t know why I’m such a weirdo about it. Obviously, I believe in my little songs… I wouldn’t play them otherwise. But it’s just inherently difficult for me to go on about myself that way.

Anyway, the point of this whole blog post is just that: I play my own stuff too. If you didn’t know that, now you know. I think it’s pretty good. If you haven’t heard it yet– I think you’ll be surprised. It’s not like the cover stuff (and I think that’s okay.)

One of my favorite shows was home (Wilmington, this means you) at the WHQR’s studios and I found it online. Take a listen, maybe? There are links below:




3 Responses to “This is Awkward.”

  1. Christina
    July 26th, 2011 @ 6:14 pm

    Impossible for you? Well maybe you need to call in a little help. You know I’d back you and your music any time, any place. As for the radio show, love hearing Fatalita. And I don’t know the name of the song, but the one at 9:20 in Pt.2 is beautiful and the piano is magical. I love it, as well as the lyrics of the next one.

    So maybe you need a hand selling yourself to new audiences and venues in order to get your name out there, but by no means do you need to sell yourself out to today’s pop culture or someone else’s vision in order to create quality music, or grab (and maintain) our attention. Keep doing your bibis thang. go get em <3

  2. Patti Felton
    July 27th, 2011 @ 11:41 am

    I feel there comes a time that in order to do what you do best you have to bring in help to ALLOW you to do what you do best. In your case, SING! Let someone else, that believes in you as much or more than you believe in yourself, promote you.

  3. v
    July 27th, 2011 @ 11:55 am

    Two words: Courtney Stodden.

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Bibis Ellison is a North Carolina based singer/songwriter. She has performed both covers and original music all over the US, Japan and in Mexico.

“Soulful, Spine Tingling. Local favorite” – Wilmington Star News

"2013 Shore Pick" - Wilmington Star News

“2010 - 2012 Performer of the Year” – Encore Magazine

“Perfect” - Southern Gothic Productions

“A Powerhouse Singer” – Triangle Arts and Entertainment